I went to dance Zouk last night. The best dance of my life currently, and my greatest addiction. And we learnt the technique of counterbalancing and the most important thing in that lesson we started with was self-awareness. Be aware of the space you take up, and then go find the center of it and get grounded in it. Once you know who you are, what you are and where there center is, the partner can enter into this grounded place and then you both can find the center of that “we”. But it always starts with YOUR own center. You can’t skip that step no matter how much you want it. You can’t hope for an amazing (dance) partner to enter your life and get it going perfectly for you, because no matter how great the partner is, if YOU are not centered, if you are OFF balance, he won’t be able to do anything with you and the whole dance will look like a disaster. You can’t skip the work on yourself first. You have to get to know yourself intimately first. You have to find your center, your own self…and then guess what?! No matter who comes into your life, you will be able to dance the dance with them. With some it will be more pleasurable and flowy, and with others it will be harder, less enjoyable and fun, but you will always be able to stand your ground and be yourself no matter what life throws at you, because you are centered in YOURSELF, and not in others.
You have your own power!
Go inwards, find it, stand in it, be comfortable in it, and then let the dance partners come up to you and take you on many different journeys.
Enjoy the ride!